Sunday, January 29, 2012

Debris in the field of life (and death)

   
   I had one of those moments the other day when a light flashes inside your mind alerting you that an observation is about to bubble to the surface of your conscious thinking. 
   Lori and I were watching the TV news as we prepared to leave our house and go to work for the day.
   The news show shared a report about a tornado strike somewhere in Alabama. The TV screen displayed images of a neighborhood that had been destroyed by the tornado. Houses were flattened and debris from the homes was scattered everywhere.
   I said to Lori, "Look at that debris field. Things are scattered everywhere."
   A moment later the host said something about the tornado creating a debris field more than a mile wide. I congratulated myself on being first with the observation and for using nearly the same jargon — debris field — as the show's host.
   Yes, I thought to myself, years of watching the weather segment on TV news shows had paid a dividend. I can now speak in the same terms as the anchor on the cable network TV news program, but I can do it slightly faster. This seemed important to me at that moment
   The news report about the tornado strike continued, with more video images of the storm's destruction. I was only half listening to what was being said. Then I heard the host say, "and a 16-year-old girl was killed by the tornado." 
   Then the video images of the destruction stopped. The host introduced a different story, and a new set of images was displayed. It was at that moment that the warning light began flashing inside my head.
   Wait a minute, I thought. The report about the tornado strike took up a fair amount of time by TV's standards. The images showed some serious damage, but the most important detail — a young girl was killed in the incident — was left until the end of the report. No details were offered about the victim or her family and then the show abruptly jumped to another story.
   Inadequate reporting? Yes, I think so, but it occurred to me that what I had just watched is a bit symbolic of our age.
   We have technology that can inform us, engage us and keep us connected to each other. It can enlighten, entertain and educate. It can condition a moderately intelligent person to view a few images of a tornado's aftermath and identify the destruction as a debris field.
   That same technology can numb, desensitize and distract. It can condition us to focus on dramatic images, to concentrate our attention on smashed homes and scattered possesions. It can make the destruction of material objects seem more important the loss of a life.
   We count the number of structures that were flattened, and our minds calculate the number of TVs crushed, cars damaged and sofas smashed. All of these items have value, each item is important to the individual owners. 
   If asked, however, each of us would say that all our material  items combined would not equal the value we place on one of our loved ones. Yet, too often we tend to forget the value of an individual life.
   If the death toll in the tornado striek was higher, say maybe 100 killed, that would have been in the opening of the news report, friends have told me.
   True, but it also affirms my point — the loss of one life doesn't touch as deeply as the loss of many lives, the one isn't as newsworthy as the 100.
   Show us images of smashed houses and damaged cars — we might empathize with the owners. Tell us a child is dead, and we shrug it off as just an unfortunate fact.
   But in that one debris field, in the wake of that one tornado, in with the variety of items that were blown out of the homes by the powerful winds, searchers recovered the body of a teenage girl. Amidst the scattered photographs, furniture, kitchen utensils, cell phones, laptops and DVRs was a mother's child.
   A tornado killed a young girl last week, and it says much about our society that a report of her death focused on the material items destroyed in the incident, saving only a single sentence at the end of the story to tell us of her passing.
   She deserved better, and so do we.











Sunday, November 27, 2011

A Cornucopia of Lori's Creativity



One of the blessings that I try to give thanks for every day is Lori, my wife. She brings many more gifts to our marriage than I, and her creativity is one bright example.


The arrangement in the photo above is a fine example of Lori's talent for taking common items and presenting them in an eye-catching manner that forces the fortunate observer to pause and appreciate the display. 


The arrangement is one of several Lori assembled to prepare our home for Thanksgiving Day 2011. We had a simple observation this year. Our day involved Lori and I hosting my mother — just the three of us for a quiet day that included a late breakfast and our holiday meal. We ordered a meal from Enticing Cuisine, a Batavia caterer — one of our favorites. We selected a caterer because I didn't want Lori spending her holiday preparing an elaborate meal for three people. 


We made the right choice. The meal was delicious, and we spent the afternoon in relaxed conversation. And while the meal was impressive and the conversation engaging, I found my attention drawn again and again to the arrangements Lori had set around the house, the cornucopia in particular. 


It rekindled in me an appreciation for the simple qualities of life — the elements we frequently miss as we rush through each day. I grasped a sense of appreciation on my recent birthday, but it slipped away during the blur of days that raced by in October and November. I am blessed that I reconnected with this sense again on Thanksgiving, and I am grateful that it returned to me by way of an arrangement of squash and other symbols of the harvest season. One of many blessings I give thanks for at the end of my day.



Sunday, October 9, 2011

Milestone Birthdays for Dad and Daughter

My daughter and I celebrate our birthdays two days apart, and this year we mark each mark a milestone birthday — I marked my 50th birthday this year and Megan celebrated her Sweet 16 today. 


That's us, above,  at Soldier Field in Chicago, in September, when NIU played Wisconsin. It was a wonderful day, a lot of fun, even though Wisconsin really hammered NIU.


I have always considered it a true blessing that God shared a daughter with me, and I have always considered Megan a special angel. I bet most fathers would say something similar about their daughters. 


Megan and I share a birthday week together, and over the years that has become an extra special bond for us. As I celebrated my 50th birthday, I realized that I had developed a profound appreciation for the simple details in life during the last year. I am sincerely grateful that God has blessed me with 50 years of life and pray that he will allow me to enjoy many more years here.


Megan hasn't told me yet what this 16th birthday has meant to her. She's had such fun this weekend that I wonder if she's had much opportunity to reflect on the event. I hope she is able to give some thought to it today, and I pray that in that moment she has feels a sense of how much she is loved.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Two Sure Signs of Autumn in Batavia

Lori and I have resided in Batavia for almost eight years and in that time I have observed several local traditions that are as reliable as any store-bought calendar for determining the time of year in the Fox River Valley.


We celebrate Christmas in December and the start of the new year in January, just as people do everywhere. And we celebrate Independence Day on July 4th, pretty much in the same manner as Americans do throughout the country. These are traditions that are observed and passed along from one generation to the next.


When it comes to autumn, we have a few rituals that are common to ones observed across the country — pumpkins and related decorations are placed on front porches and in yards. Batavia residents have two special ways of noting when autumn has arrived.


The first is when the Albright Theatre Company announces its show dates for its annual production of "The Legend of Sleepy Hollow," and the second is when my neighbor, Helen Baynes, announces that it is time to pull her slow cooker from the pantry shelf and prepare some cool-weather dishes. Just by chance, both announcements were made today.


The Albright is community theater in its purest form. The theater is located on the third floor of the city's municipal center, and production values are kept to within very modest means. Yet, the actors who have appeared in the annual productions of Washington Irving's classic tale of the unfortunate Ichabod Crane manage to engage and entertain audiences of all ages. 


This year's show will be the Albright's seventh production, meaning the theater company started this effort the year after Lori and I arrived in Batavia. In that short time, Albright's production of "Sleepy Hollow" has become a seasonal tradition for many area families, including mine, and is even a featured attraction during BatFest, Batavia's celebration of Halloween. 


Lori and I will be sure attend a showing of this year's production.


Likewise, we'll do our best to partake in at least a few of Helen Baynes' recipes for meals from the slow cooker. One of our favorites features pork roast, potatoes and apple slices. Served up with some steaming vegetables and fresh-baked bread, the meal is a true autumn classic and one that I look forward to enjoying every October (and once or twice in November, too).


Neither one of these Batavia "traditions" enjoy the fame and following they deserve, but maybe that's what makes them so special to those of us who welcome them every autumn.